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Friday, March 21, 2014

How To Raise The Child You've Got, Not The One You Want

By Saleem Rana


Nancy Rose spoke to Lon Woodbury on Parent Choices for Struggling Teens, a radio show on L.A. Talk Radio, about how to raise the child you've got, not the one you want. Parents who refuse to accept their children's core nature, will cause the child to pick up the idea that there is something wrong with them. The host of the show, Lon Woodbury, is an Independent Educational Consultant and has worked with families and struggling teens since 1984.

A Brief Bio of Nancy Rose

Nancy Rose is a mother of two sons. She has spent greater than 25 years examining the role of acceptance in parent-child relationships. An attorney and financial adviser by occupation, she now spends her time as a speaker, writer and coach for parents. In her new book, "Raise the Child You Want--Not the One You Want" she talks to moms and dads who long to re-establish a caring connection with their kid.

How to Raise the Child You've Got, Not the One You Want

Nancy's book "Raise the Child You've Got--Not the One You Want," originated from her own individual experience. She grew up not really feeling appreciated by her Mom and because of her experience of emotional pain around her self-identity. She knew her Mom loved her, yet she was not convinced that her Mom liked her; so, she spent her entire youth trying to win her mother's approval. Only years later, when she came to be a mother herself did she find out how to begin to heal her own childhood angst.

Nancy obtained her self-esteem during her twenties by becoming a scholastic super-achiever. Then she awakened from her "hypnotic trance of achievement" when she understood that she had become a tax lawyer and an accountant simply to please her mother. Now, with a law and finance degree, the law degree from the University of California, Berkeley and the degree in finance from the University of Illinois, she puts her understanding, experiences, and qualifications to serve her passion for making sure every child is allowed to shine.

She has identified 9 traits for parents to identify who their child is at their core -- activity, adaptability, distractibility, ease with the unfamiliar, intensity, optimism, persistence, regularity, and sensory reactivity. A child will only feel accepted when his or her parents accept each trait, offer guidance and provide parent leadership. By accepting a child's Core Self, it becomes much easier to raise the child you've got, not the one you want.




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